So you show up at the meeting and find out that you’re the problem. And you never knew it. Sadly, this is what happens in way too many organizations.
Rather then dealing with issues as they arise through discussion and feedback, the manager you report to “saves it up” and unloads when he can’t take it anymore.
How unfair is that? This manager is doing you and the organization you work for a complete disservice. Here’s why:
- You can’t change what you don’t know. If no one tells you what you need to correct, you can’t be expected to do things differently. I have yet to meet anyone who is a mind reader. People need to be told when different action should be taken.
- Someone else may be picking up the slack. If you’re doing it wrong, someone else has to fix it. That means they are being taken away from what they should be doing. What a waste of time and money.
- The information may be incorrect. Do you remember the old telephone game? Information rarely gets passed from one person to another exactly the way it happened. Everyone listens through their own filters and if you weren’t part of the discussion, an opportunity to clarify what happened has been lost.
So here’s what you need to do.
Ask your manager (and whoever brought the issue to his attention) to involve you in the discussion when it happens. That way you’ll have an opportunity to clarify the issue and correct it if needed.
And make sure you are walking this talk too. Check your behaviors to ensure you aren’t making assumptions and holding on to feedback with your team.
Have you ever had feedback dumped on you? How did you handle it? Please leave a comment.
